If you don’t like something change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude. – Maya Angelou
Let’s consider together a couple of experiences where we could live in uncertainty:
- Marital status changes: becoming engaged, getting married, separated, divorced, or death
- Job changes: starting a new position, transitioning from full-time to part-time, volunteering, paid status, winning the lottery
- Financial changes: when income fluctuates up and down and sideways, moving to a new area
- Children status changes: having a new child, entering a new life stage, starting college, a new career, health, diagnosis…
Oh, the many ways that life can change so quickly. But the one and only thing that you do have control over is your attitude. This is true even in the most difficult and worst of all situations. However, in the depths and despair of when life takes us completely by surprise we might want to change our attitude, but do not feel that we can. It is difficult, but I would like to offer you six ideas that can help you to change your mindset.
6 Helpful Ideas for Changing Your Mindset:
(Please remember that making strides to go forward always involves a struggle. Be kind to yourself!)
- Know Who You Are
Know who you are and work in your area of strength. Remember the things that made you feel strong when you were in 2nd grade? Spend some time each day doing something that makes you feel strong and competent. Something you enjoy.
- Practice Gratitude
Look hard and high for three things to be thankful for. Start small, but keep looking up. Are you a tree, star, cloud person? Keep your eyes on the wonders that are created around you. When I look up I can’t help but think about a transcendent power beyond myself, which makes me feel thankful for the day I was given.
- Celebrate the Small Victories
Remember to celebrate the small victories each day. Did one thing go right today? Focus here, instead of what went wrong today.
- Find People of the Same Mindset
If you believe that life is worth living – be looking for people who can help reinforce this fact in your own life. And don’t be afraid to ask for help from people who are of the same mindset. For some reason, we tend to look for the person who negatively affected our change as being the person who should now change back to the person we once believed them to be. I would suggest looking for a new friend, counselor, coach in order to gain the mindset we want. And quit trying to change the other person.
- Create a Routine
Start with an evening routine as the evening starts your morning off well.
- Allow Time to Grieve
Allow yourself some time to grieve the change, but in the midst of the grief it is imperative to be looking for opportunities for growth. This is the wondrous part of being human – we have the potential for growth and change!
Who knows, you might even love this new life you are creating!